Discipline is known as the concept that some people don’t like because the meaning of it isn’t known exactly. The new generation of parents of our age stated that they educate their children freely, not disciplined. When we say disciplined parents what comes to mind is a family with strict rules and pressures the child according to these strict rules. However, discipline is used in our daily lives to mean that we have strict or boring rules and that we end up punishing or putting pressure on children. In fact, this is not the discipline. Discipline by word meaning is actually synonymous with teaching. It means to train, to teach, doing things accordingly to their rules and succeed. As parents you should discover the abilities of the child and support him/her to do things by learning, performing and succeeding. Disciplined parents are the ones who can teach their child to eat instead of coming after their child when the mealtime comes. Teaching how to eat isn’t not related to strict rules or using force.
Apply your Decisions Clearly
Children try and understand the rules of the universe in their tiny worlds. They have the need to understand. They want to know what is expected from them, how far they can go, where they are going to stand with other people. They want to know what will happen when they go too far and so they want to behave accordingly. As children grow up, they have the need to measure their increased skills and abilities. The boundaries of discipline play an important role in this learning and discovery period. Parents might break down easily when teaching something if they don’t set their boundaries clearly. Family plays an important role in the spiritual development of the child. Two general attitudes are displayed in the family: democratic and authoritarian attitude according to family’s faith and structure. In democratic attitude process depending on the children’s age, they’re able to take some decisions, to have a say, and to share information about the reasons and consequences of decisions together with the family. In authoritarian attitude parents want the parental desires and obligations to be exactly the way they want. The children who have parents displaying democratic attitudes gain confidence to express themselves more easily. Parents can see punishment as a contrary to the love by mixing the democratic attitude with not being able to set borders. But without limits, the child can’t have the capacity to control him/herself.
Be careful when you say no to children.
The most important people in the child’s life are their parents. Parents should not forget to set up the relationship without disruption in the discipline that will be applied to the child. It’s wrong to show excessive love when child displays a good behaviour and deny showing love when they display bad behaviours. Love must always be segregated and unconditional. Children should never be suspicious of their parents’ love for their positive or negative behaviours. For this reason, the family should use the discipline method without interrupting the love. They should always be a good example for their children. Be careful what for and how often you say no. Say no lovingly but firmly and clearly too.